Retirement

I may be a minority here but I feel this way a lot here lately.

Retirement

Beginning of life: all is exciting and new.  Experiences mostly intriguing.

On into your teenage and young adult careers, we are focused on building and achieving.

Reaching into the middle aged or life comes to a high as we are about to reach are goal.

Into our older years, once our goal is reached, we slow down and take a look back

Now at the peak of our career, we no longer climb or move upward, we no longer grow.

Going nowhere!! Existing until our final day.

Our Problems Disappear

where-all-problems-go-away-true-story-⚽👌-7856435We all need a place to escape sometimes.  For some of us it is a soccer game, as in this picture here.  For others it is something a little (or a lot) more destructive, such as alcohol, drugs, gambling, and the list goes on.  

What are we escaping from?

We escape from  work, family problems, financial problems, heartache, health problems, etc.  Problems are many times the focus of our attention because we are drawn to what hurts at the moment.  It’s like when we stub out little toe; we grab our toe and moan until the pain subsides.  Likewise, most of us focus on our problems or pain until it goes away.

What is the real problem?

The real problem is not work, the family, finances, heartache, or heath, etc.  It is our focus.  What is our focus.  I have found that the more I focus on myself, the more problems I seem to have.  I am always concerned about what I want, how I feel; and I complain about what is not perfect and who is not doing what I want.  

Change of focus

So where should our focus be?  Many times in my life I have felt my focus being pulled away from my own problems when I see another bigger problem out there somewhere.  Out in the world, in my community, or among my friends.  When I see a catastrophe like war, tsunamis, or poverty  or when I see a friend get evicted from their home or someone I know loses a family member, that is when my problems seem to disappear.  In the light of major catastrophes or serious problems all around me, my problems seems to be a trivial matter.  So the problem is not my situation.  It is my focus.  It is my response to my problems.  Do I sit and sulk?  Do I worry and complain?  Do I have a pity party and wonder when I will get my way, when my kids will finally behave, when my bills will ever get paid?  If so, I end up worrying and becoming depressed.  However….

 Focus on Jesus

If I focus on Jesus, first of all, I know He has the answer and with Him I can get through the problem.  My problem may not actually disappear, but I do not worry about it because “Papa” will take care of it and see me through it.

Focus on others

Prayer is a wonderful thing.  When I pray for myself, I can focus on Jesus and know he has my problems in His hands and will fix everything until I feel okay again. When I pray for others, I get my focus off of myself and realize that I am not alone in my battles, pain, and heartaches.  

When I see what is happening in the world I still know that God is sovereign and is not up there wringing his hands wondering what to do.  He has it all under control. Sure, He gave some authority to us and commanded us to take charge of things on Earth, but He is there to help us if we ask Him.  

JOY

I once heard the definition of Joy as Jesus Others Yourself.  That is what our focus should be.  Jesus first, others second, and ourselves last.  We are here to Worship God.  That is our primary focus.  Then we are also here to love others.  Sometimes our focus should be on them more than ourselves.  Philippians 2:3 says, “Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves.”  We should thing of others needs.  Although we should not neglect ourselves, we should just realize that when we put others first at times, our problems seem smaller or even non existent as we focus on something else.

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MY EATING PLAN

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I discovered this new food pyramid online.  I like this style of eating and have been trying to move to this diet for a while due to diabetes in my family.  I am glad that I found this online. It’s good to know someone else feels the way I do about limiting my grains and legumes so much.  I have diabetes in my family and have been trying to eat low carb for a while.  I am not diabetic; but have been told I could be pre-diabetic.  I feel that is no longer the case because of my low carb healthy eating style.  Research this for yourself beginning with this website above and see if it’s right for you.  I feel much better since I have been eating this way–more energy, less cravings, weight loss (about 2-3 pounds a week or 10-12 pounds a month).  Please feel free to comment below about what new healthy diet you have discovered.

STOP THE PAIN!!

PainLady I was talking to a nurse today who told me many patients proclaim, “I didn’t know it would hurt this much” when they come out of surgery.  And they expect to be medicated until the pain is completely gone.  But it is not always safe to be medicated that much.  Sometimes we just have to live with some pain until we are healed.  Medication is only to alleviate some of the pain, not necessarily to totally remove it.

That’s the way it is with our emotions too.  Sometimes we want to totally get rid of the pain of rejection, depression, anger, hatred, emotional pain of abuse, etc.  And that’s why I believe addictions are so much of a problem today.  Whether it is gambling, drugs, alcohol, shopping, eating, watching TV or whatever one chooses to escape from the pain, many of us have succumb to addictions.  I know I have my moments of trying to escape the pain of this world.  How can we solve this problem?

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We were told there was going to be pain.  Jesus said “In this world you will have trouble, but be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.” John 16:33.  Jesus was a man full of sorry and He has grieved because of the state of man’s soul who has not trusted in Him. He told us that we should be ready for pain and sorrow.  That means I should not expect to be happy every day.  I have joy because Jesus is with me, supporting me through difficult times, but it is not always fun or easy or pleasant.

Know That There is a Solution,  It’s also a Promise

Jesus said, “Be of good cheer, I have overcome the world.”  He is always with us.  He will never leave.  He wants to carry our burdens.  The bible is full of verses that comfort the soul.  The greatest comfort is knowing that this fallen world is only temporary.  One day I will pass on into the spiritual realm and live life with Jesus face to face.  This world will pass away, but the love of the Lord lasts forever.

Learn to Live with Some Pain

Knowing that there will be pain helps me expect it and prepare for it.  Knowing that it is temporary lets me realize that I won’t be in pain forever.  Also as I grow older, I know that physical pain is a part of life.  I seldom take pain medication.  I just live with it for a while.  I know it’s going away eventually, when He comes to take me Home to Heaven.

BE OF GOOD CHEER!!

Look at the stars

I love this quote I found online.  I believe this to the very core of my being.  There is light!

Looking around at the world today and all that is happening in the news, we will notice a lot of bad; there is a lot of hatred, sorrow, terrorism, etc.  We will notice people who don’t care any more.  There is more financial stress, more destruction, and more illness, and the list goes on. Many people can grow cold and uncaring or just become immune to all the evil in the world.  What was once devastating or shocking to society years ago will be acceptable or ‘normal’ today.  Take divorce for example.  It is very commonplace today, but a couple hundred years ago, if someone were to say they were getting divorced, they would probably be either shamed or pitied greatly.  Now it is much more acceptable.

In a world growing cold, immoral, or uncaring I can find myself becoming judgmental.  It’s just not the way it used to be.  More and more of what is acceptable now was immoral 50 years ago.  It is very easy to focus on what is bad in the world.  The news, for example has mostly stories of terrorism, war, and crime with only a short human interest story at the end.  There is a way I’ve learned to stop being so sorrowful and disappointed concerning the world system.

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Look at the stars

The more darkness there is, the more stars I can see.  I can go out to the country and see an image such as the one here.  A  multitude of stars in space.  There is darkness all around, but so many stars to enjoy.  If I keep my head up instead of down, I can see more light instead of darkness.

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In the city, with all the lights, buildings, and cars, there is much less light in the sky.  It’s easy for me to be so distracted by the action, people, and things around me that I no longer see the stars.  The world is in the way.  Even when I do look up, the stars are much less noticeable.  Most of them are dimmed in the midst of the lights of the world.

Look to God

god-is-light-in-him-there-is-no-darkness-at-all-quote-1ddf4ec73a44f86ca71ac6d1320605afeThese two verses say it all.  “God is light. In Him there is no darkness at all.” 1 John 1:5.  and “Set your mind on thing above.”  Colossians 3:2.  If I keep looking up, if I look at the stars in the night sky instead of the darkness itself, I can see light.  There is still good in the world.  There is still happiness. God is teaching me not be so negative.  Do not see the glass half empty.  Do not look only to the faults in the world.  See the small points of light in the midst of darkness.  Focus on the positive.

Like Carrie Hope Fletcher said, “Happiness is always there. You just have to choose to see it. There’s no point dwelling in the dark and ignoring the light of the stars.”  See link above for more information on Carrie Hope Fletcher.

How to Change Worry to Peace and Freedom

Worry happens when we take on a responsibility that is not ours.

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Jesus told us that we should not worry. Philippians 4:6-7 in the New Living Translation says “Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything.  Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done.  Then you will experience God’s peace which exceeds anything we can understand.  His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.”

1 Peter 5:7 says  Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you.

Jesus wants all our cares.  That is why he came.  He came to walk beside us and carry our load.  

We worry about our children

When our children are small and live at home, we don’t tend to worry about how to feed them, how their diaper is going to be changed, or how to carry out our basic responsibilities toward that child.  We have been given the ability to do these things because it is our responsibility and God gives us the knowledge and strength to carry them out.  When our children grow up and move out of the house, they start making their own decisions and choices.  They are no longer under our chain of command and are no longer our responsibility.  We can counsel them when they ask or help them when they need help; but, ultimately, they are now under God’s chain of command and if we start to worry, it’s because we have no control over the situation.  It is not ours to control so God has not given us that ability, strength or knowledge.

We worry about finances

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When we worry about finances, that is also taking on a responsibility that is not ours.  The bible says in Philippians 4:19 that God will supply all our needs.  So ultimately it is His responsibility, not ours.  That does not mean we sit back and wait for someone, sent by God, to hand us all the money we need to life.  Our responsibility is to ask God to supply our needs then listen to His plan of action.  He will tell us where to work and how to earn an income.  Our responsibility is simply obedience to his Word, spoken or written.  Once we obey, He honors and blesses us.  

We worry about the future.

called-to-be-loved-26-638So, we cannot control our grown children, we cannot control our finances (our trust is in God, not money or our present economy), and we certainly cannot control our future.  It has not happened yet and we never know what is around the corner, but God knows and He works all things together for our good.  Most things we worry about that concern the future will either never happen or they will be things we can handle and eventually walk out of victoriously.

So what are we to do?

Just live like a child.  Again referring to Jesus’ teachings, He told us to come to Him as little children.  Have you noticed how happy little children are?  They know they cannot buy their own food, or dress themselves, or take care of even their most basic needs.  But they trust their caregivers to care for them.  All they need to do is come when called and let their caregivers hand them all that they need.  That is what our Savior can do for us.  He will hand us all we need as long as we live for Him and obey His leading.  And no, our parents will not always hand us everything we want.  They know we need to eat our veggies and protein, not only sweets.  So, also, God will not hand us all we WANT.  Only what we NEED.  Trust in Him.  Let go.  Be free.

Changes in Life

Something exciting is available around the bend.  I know it.  It has to be.  Because otherwise I would not be here.Kinkade, Life's Journey

There are many changes in life.  One of them is retirement.  I wouldn’t say I really retired in the classical sense.  I just quit my job for several reasons that I need not go into in this blog.  Having done that, however, I’m finding myself at home with not much to do.  I realized that I have a lot of potential in me.  There is talent in there somewhere.  We all have gifts and abilities that should be used.  Otherwise, why are we here?  I have sat in my home and contemplated this for a few days.  Watching TV, reading books, playing video games, and surfing the internet is fun, but is is not useful.  There is no purpose in that for me.  Who am I helping?  So, I think it is time to start blogging seriously again.  There may be some nuggets of truth, some encouraging words, or some happy, funny stories and poems that I can write that will improve someone’s day, make them feel better, or maybe even change their life for the better.  Therefore, after 3 years, I am beginning my WordPress blog once again.  I am looking forward to what God has in store for me around the bend.  I am excited about life in general and how technology has made it so easy for us to influence a multitude of people on a daily basis.  So be looking for my blogs.  Let me know what you would like me to write about.  Hopefully, you can comment on my posts to let me know if I have somehow encouraged you, or helped you discover new truths of life and God.  Retirement will be fun now.  I have a goal, a passion, a mission, and that is writing!!